Maybe it’s about Time
I see so many different types of clients in my counseling practice. They come for a myriad of reasons. Their issues and challenges stem from many different sources. For some people it's a matter of physiological and biological misinformation. A matter of function and mechanics, if you will. This is pretty easy to remedy. I just replace the misinformation with new and accurate information and a clear understanding of how things actually work ...
How to Spice Things Up
I get couples calling and coming in for counseling all the time because they want to "spice things up". Usually this means they are looking for some new, wild, pretzel position, or space age sex toy that will bring them to sexual heights previously unknown to them. Something, anything that will bring their desire back. Trouble is, so many of these same people take little or no time to like one another. To have fun and pleasure together outside ...
HELP! He Won’t Stand Up!!!
If you've ever experienced not getting or keeping an erection, don't panic. And know that you're not alone. Somewhere between 20-30 million American men will suffer from some kind of erection problem in their lifetime. And though almost nothing else causes quite as much anxiety, fear or shame as the inability to get or keep erections when you want them, in most cases it's probably a transient or isolated incident . Erectile issues are much ...
New Year’s Resolutions Will help Your Sex Life
Many people make New Year's resolutions that often have to do with improving their overall health and general sense of wellbeing. Well, it turns out many of these new habits will also contribute to improved sexual functioning and well being. So if you've made any of the following resolutions you'll actually be doubling the bang for your buck. Exercising more regularly: Regular exercise improves cardiovascular and circulatory function. We all ...
The Little Pink Female Viagra Pill
In just a matter of days the first FDA approved sexual dysfunction medication for women will be available in a pharmacy near you. It is used to treat low desire, or hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) in pre-menopausal women. Depending on who you speak to, this is great news or a huge mistake. I purposely titled this post as I did to actually underscore the fact that the pill, marketed as Addyi (or flibanserin), is definitely not like ...
THE GOOD, THE BAD and THE SLIPPERY OF LUBE
There are many reasons to use lubricants (lube) during sexual activities, though there still remains a misconception by many that only old people (mostly women) really need it. And though lube is extremely helpful in making intercourse much more comfortable and enjoyable for peri/post menopausal women, that's just the beginning of the story. Some other situations and reasons to use lube are: *When time only allows for a quickie and natural ...
What Happened to my Libido???
Almost everyday I have someone tell me they have no libido, that they could care less if they never had sex again, and then ask me for testosterone supplementation. Unfortunately, diminished or non-existent libido is much more complex than mere testosterone supplementation. Interestingly, there are many people with objectively low testosterone levels who have great sex drive and feel very sexy. And conversely, there are just as many people with ...
What’s Wrong With Me? I’ve had this vaginal discharge for years.
Probably nothing! In my clinical practice it amazes me how many young (and not so young) women don't know that vaginas and vulvas make discharge. They think there is something terribly wrong with them. They think they need fixing: with scrubbing and douches, sprays and gels and medications. But most times, if you treat your vagina and vulva (puss, kitty, vajayjay or whatever other endearing term you use for you intimate female sexual parts) ...
OPEN YOUR HEARTS, OPEN YOUR MINDS and GIVE AWAY SOME LOVE
During this season of Saint Valentine, Cupid, chocolate hearts and pink flowers, there are plenty of ways to show your love in non-Hallmark ways. Love yourself, love your partner, your postman, your boss and your mother. Everyone. The point is, you have PLENTY of love to go around and an infinite number of ways to show it. Here are some ideas to fire your own imagination. *hold hands *pay a compliment *give him a pedicure *do a load of ...
Embrace Your Midlife Sexual Changes
Change is hard for us. We are creatures of habit. When we are faced with changes we often fight tooth and nail to maintain the status quo. The more we struggle to maintain things the way they are, the more we suffer. Anyone who is over the age of about 20 knows that no matter what tactics we employ, things always change. We can stamp our feet, yell, cry, bargain, and even spend large amounts of money, all to no avail. When we are ill, or in ...